My Approach to Betrayal Trauma
Healing happens in stages.
Safety and Stabilization
Before you can make big decisions about your relationship, you need to feel more grounded and safe.
We work on the overwhelming emotions, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, loss of control and constant sense that you need to know what is happening next.
First, we help you feel steady enough to breathe.
Make Meaning
Once you’re more stable, we begin making sense of what happened.
This isn’t about blaming yourself or immediately deciding whether your relationship should survive.
It’s about understanding the betrayal, the impact it has had on you, what you need, and what you want.
You begin to understand your experience without losing yourself in it.
Envision Your Future
Eventually, the question becomes bigger than:
“Will my partner change?”
It becomes:
“What kind of life do I want to create?”
Whether your relationship continues, changes, or ends, your healing cannot depend entirely on someone else’s decisions.
The goal is to help you build a future that is fulfilling and meaningful — regardless of what your partner ultimately chooses.
For Individuals Experiencing Betrayal Trauma
If you’ve been betrayed, you may feel as though your entire sense of reality has been shaken.
You don’t have to decide today whether you’re staying or leaving.
Therapy can give you a place to slow down, understand what you’re experiencing, regain your footing, and begin making decisions from a place of greater clarity rather than panic.
I work with individuals experiencing:
● Infidelity and affair-related trauma
● Betrayal trauma
● Repeated or compulsive sexual behavior by a partner
● Pornography-related betrayal
● Emotional affairs
● Deception and secrecy
● Narcissistic abuse and relational trauma
● Loss of trust and hypervigilance
● Intrusive thoughts and obsessive questioning after betrayal
● Grief over the relationship you thought you had
● Uncertainty about whether to stay or leave
