An affair changes the relationship for both people.
For the betrayed partner, there may be shock, anger, fear, grief and an overwhelming need for answers.
For the partner who was unfaithful, there may be shame, guilt, fear of losing the relationship, and uncertainty about how to repair the damage.
Couples therapy after infidelity isn’t about pretending the betrayal didn’t happen. It’s about creating a place where both people can begin to understand what happened, the betraying partner can take responsibility and learn to show true remorse, communicate differently, and both of you can determine whether the relationship can be rebuilt.
For Couples After Infidelity
I don’t assume that every couple should stay together or separate.
The goal is not simply to save the relationship.
The goal is to help you determine what is possible — and what is healthy for both of you.
You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out
Maybe you’re certain you want to leave.
Maybe you’re certain you want to stay.
Maybe you change your mind every day.
Maybe you don’t know what you want at all.
That’s okay.
Therapy doesn’t require you to make that decision first.
We can start with where you are.
My job is not to tell you whether to stay or leave. My job is to help you become grounded enough to understand what happened, reconnect with yourself, identify what you need, and make decisions that are right for you.